Many Christians Hurt By Unforgiveness
ChristiaNet.com, a large Christian portal with eight million monthly page loads, asked participants in a recent poll, "Are you holding unforgiveness in your life?" The majority of Christians polled understand the importance of forgiving others. According to Bill Cooper, President of ChristiaNet, "According to Matthew 18:21-35 Christians have no option, but to forgive others. However, that doesn't mean to put yourself into an abusive situation."
Out of 1,200 Believers, 52% said they do not hold any unforgivenness in their lives. The majority of these Christians quoted from the Bible where God says you must forgive others in order for your sins to be forgiven. Many realized that not forgiving others causes distress and pain in the life of the person who was offended. As one commented, "Unforgiveness is the root of bitterness." Other Christians viewed the ability to forgive as "the key to freedom" or a "burden not worth carrying." The main attitude of this group was it is better to receive God's peace and joy than to live in bitterness and pain.
Of those participating in the poll, twenty-six percent felt they are holding unforgivenness toward someone. Many respondents indicated that they had a difficult time forgiving themselves whereas most held unforgivenness toward others such as friends, family members and spouses. The top reasons for holding a grudge are physical or verbal abuse, betrayal and divorce. Many realized it's not Christ-like and have attempted to resolve it through prayer or counseling. One Christian shared, "I continually pray to God to help me forgive those that hurt me."
The last group was unsure about unforgiveness. This group consisted of twenty-two percent and felt confused about the issue. They struggled with forgetting. Since they have not forgotten the incident, they are unsure if they have truly forgiven the person. As one reader expressed, "I don't know. I know I forgave him, but I still hurt and feel sad." Others attempt to forget by not interacting with the people that have hurt them or praying for the bad memories to be washed away. Some rely upon faith that they have really forgiven everyone.
To help educate Christians, ChristiaNet has just released a free Forgiveness Quiz. Using the latest interactive technology, one can test their Biblical knowledge on issues facing the Christian Community.